Love-is it worth taking the first step

 Love-is it worth taking the first step

This topic is probably one of the most common in all discussions on Internet forums. The question is asked by both women and men. Everyone needs to love and be loved, but falling in love is much easier than expressing your feelings. This article, however, is not a hookup guide, but aims to answer the question of whether it is worth it to be the first to talk back to a person we like.

Unfortunately, but nature is inexorable. The fact that you like someone does not necessarily mean that you also like that person. Because of this, we are gripped by fear, both of rejection and ridicule - we are afraid that someone will laugh at our affection or despise it. Therefore, in order not to expose ourselves to ridicule, we should make sure that we have a chance to reciprocate the feeling. If you have mutual friends, you can gently ask them whether the object of your interest says anything about you at all, and if so, whether he or she speaks in a positive way. In a situation where you can't find out anything about it, pay attention to the signs the object of your sigh gives you. Does he smile at you, how does he look at you. Try to activate your intuition, watch the movements, sometimes someone can betray himself with a simple gesture, such as touching his hair with his hand while looking at you.

If you see each other regularly, and you can determine with a high degree of probability that you also like the other person, then it is no longer worth giving in to your shyness and definitely try to develop your acquaintance. It is likely that this person is also shy and would prefer you to be the one to take the first step. There is a good chance that you will form a close-knit couple, but first, of course, one of you has to act so that you become aware of your mutual affection.

However, if the object of interest gives no signs, treats you like air, there is no point in trying hard to get your attention. You are likely to be rejected/rejected, which will definitely have a negative impact on your well-being. Such situations stay in your memory for a long time, you will feel less attractive, which will make it more difficult for you to look for a partner. Love cannot be forced, it is not logical and does not result from a rational choice, but is an impulse, an inexplicable surge of feeling. So if someone is not interested in us, then convincing and imposing on him will not change anything. Therefore, any advice such as "take the first step - you can gain something and lose nothing", in my opinion, is pointless, because you can lose a lot, for example, high self-esteem or self-confidence.

Troublesome, on the other hand, is the situation when we don't know someone at all, and we like him. We should take into account the difference between the behavior of women and men. If a female representative likes a man, her task is to give him the right signals, so that he will know that she likes him and will have a chance to make the first move or subtly ignore the signals if he is not interested. This will make sure that in the case of unrequited feelings, no one will be hurt and humiliated. However, keep in mind that signals sent by women must be really clear, as men do not have as developed intuition as women.

Women usually do not make the first move, in our cultural circle it is accepted that this task belongs to men. They then prove that they are confident, open and courageous. If a man is not able to overcome his shyness, it will be difficult for him to win a woman. Nevertheless, it is possible - love is an unstoppable force, and more and more often it happens that culture - culture, and life - life, and it is the ladies who take the initiative.

Finally, I wish everyone courage in interpersonal contacts, because it will certainly make someone special appear on our way.